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Monday, November 25, 2013

Thanksgiving and Actions of Grace

It's almost Thanksgiving Day. 

 This year I'll be with my daughter and her family. I'm sending cards to the rest of my family and I confess I didn't carefully chose cards. I was zipping through a store, grabbed a package of six and plan to add a message....

But the message to me was on the package itself.   It was labeled, "6 thanksgiving cards", translated into French- "cartes de l'action de graces."  Grab and run, wait.... What did that say?



cartes de l'action de graces


The French don't celebrate Thanksgiving. The  Pilgrims didn't land on their shores aiming to form "a City upon a Hill". Years ago they didn't celebrate survival with a feast or include their native benefactors.  But they do have a word for our Thanksgiving Day and I love it... l'Action de grâces, 



 The thanksgiving prayer said before or after a meal is simply "les grâces."
An act of thanksgiving is called "une action de grâce(s)." 
Note that the word "grâce" can be singular or plural. 

When referring to the holiday held in the U.S. on the fourth Thursday in November
 and in Canada on the second Monday in October, only the initial "a" is capitalized.  

Thanksgiving (the holiday) l'Action de grâces, la fête de l'Action de grâces - 

Thanksgiving Day- le jour de l'Action de grâces





The French words gave me a pause.  In America we say, "Happy Thanksgiving!" and "What are you thankful for?" or "This season I'm going to list what I'm thankful every day."  While we should be thankful, grateful for God's provision, in our culture a traditional symbol of the season is the cornucopia. The curved horn of plenty spills a variety of fruits and vegetables out of it's woven basketry. 

Harvest. Abundance. Affluence.  


"Thank you, God. You've given me so much. 
You are a good God because You've given me so much. 
My life is full and obviously You are responsible."   

Yay, God. 
Gather 'round the table and let's eat. 



So what’s this “l’action de graces”?   You don’t have to be bilingual to translate that phrase. Thankful in French is reconnaissant, “to recognize or acknowledge” and that’s another gem to ponder. But thanksgiving is translated action of grace.  How perfect!  Gathering in forms of community to show our gratitude is an action.  And His grace is always shown in His actions toward us- even when the table is old, the food is scarce or the people are absent or estranged. It’s still an act of grace when the Hand of God isn’t open with abundance but instead offers the intimacy of suffering and sorrow.
   

The goal of our lives cannot be merely the correct emotions of gratitude and thankfulness. Like his our actions also must reflect grace.  If we maintain our calm when attacked, we call it "grace under fire." There are times in my life when I feel attacked, I feel abandoned, I feel disappointment.  I can cover those emotions with my veneer of gratitude and thanksgiving- a spiritual "fake it until you make it." Except I'm missing what I'm supposed to be making.  The goal is not ease, the goal is holiness and actions that reflect the Holy One within us.


And it's those times of human weakness when my actions are not actions of of grace.  I act in self-defense when offended. I retreat into silence rather than acting out the difficult grace of breaking the impasse with my offender.  I act in fear when I wake in the night and my aloneness smothers me like a heavy blanket. In the darkness, I simply have no capacity to extend grace to my own frightened self.   I act in self-pity when life is unfair and my actions are not graceful service. When I refuse the life I'm offered, I'm refusing to embrace Him, refusing to extend grace back.

So what is the blessing of Thanksgiving? 

The One to whom we offer our thanks is always acting in grace.  

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Grace moves toward reconciliation 
without expectation of being right or understood.


All this is from God, 
who through Christ reconciled us to himself 
and gave us the ministry of reconciliation;  
2 Corinthians 5:18

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 Grace is sufficient, 
for His strength fills our weakness.  

My grace is enough; it's all you need. 
My strength comes into its own in your weakness.
The Message 2 Corinthians 12:9 




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Grace looks for ways to serve. 


Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom which cannot be shaken,
let us have grace, by which we may serve God acceptably

with reverence and godly fear. Hebrews 12:28





May this Thanksgiving be full ..... of  abundance 
and
actions of grace, 





especially

in the small places of our lives.

Thursday, November 14, 2013

Falling in love

Dear Ann fLanders, 

I'm in love with a younger man. He's much shorter than me, refuses to sit still for photos and throws things at everyone. I love to write and have long discussions on philosophical and spiritual topics; he has a very limited vocabulary and makes up gibberish all the time. I love to read but he's pretty much stuck on three books and insists on having them read over and over.  He's also very attached to his stuffed animals, I don't even have or want to have a dog.  I'm a gourmet cook, he prefers peanut butter. Straight from the jar, with a plastic spoon.  Do we have a future? 

PS- he's eighteen months old.  And adorable. And he seems very tender toward other women in his life. 

Signed, 
Besotted



Starting off the day.

It's 7 AM.
Breakfast is done and Dad's cover (that's a cap for you civilians) is the toy of choice.

And "No, I will NOT sit still and look cute for the camera. Do your best, Bebe!"


He was so cute cuddling with his stuffed animals....
this is right before he suddenly decided to jump off the couch.
Photo op over. 


Notice the blur. The only thing that doesn't move in this picture are the animals.

And they were thrown from the couch.
He's not to be trusted- cuddle bunny one moment, curmudgeon the next. 


But who can resist that face!

He does look a bit mischievous doesn't he,
Remember, it's now about 7:15 am. 


Dad's going off to work and to "support and defend the Constitution of the United States against all enemies,
foreign and domestic"

Oorah!
Don't forget your boots.  


Quick!
Climb up on the back of the couch!


Gotta say "Bye, bye.  Later."


Wave at Daddy.

And the big white truck and the little red car and the green car and the black truck and the....

 oooh... . a YELLOW SCHOOL BUS!

7:35 AM




Dear Besotted,

Of course you have a future.  He's clearly adorable and irresistible. If I didn't have my own perfect grandchildren, I'd be tempted to steal yours.  Enjoy. These years will pass as quickly as your own children's toddler years did.

He won't always want you to blow on his round belly or soap up his soft back. Luckily the diapers don't last forever so enjoy those sturdy little baby buns while you can. Be willing to snuggle up with Mr. Tiger and Mr. Bear and the rest of the goofy stuffed animals.  They get put in the back of the closet soon enough.  He'll learn to eat more foods- if you're as good a cook as you think you are, you can teach him to cook!  And think of all the cool restaurants you can take him to.  As well as the zoo, the beach, climbing on those great rocks around your cabin, exploring the mountains you love so much.

The same with all the books you want to share with him. He'll eventually expand his literary repertoire, especially if you keep sending him books all the time.  And soon enough you can read all YOUR favorites to him.  Be patient. There will come a day when he will sit still. Or not- then you can put them on a podcast for him while he bounces through life!

As for those other women... I believe one is his younger sister, always a sign of a true gentlemen that he is tender and sweet toward her. He has responsibilities there.  As for his mother....in some relationships I do advise caution when a man seems too attached to his mother. But in this case you have nothing to fear. She seems very wise and able to share him with you. I suspect you two will have years to perfect your mutual admiration society of this handsome young gentleman.

Sincerely,
Ann fLanders

PS- get used to the photo struggle. It's a good challenge to try to take good photos with a moving subject.

Caught in a quiet moment of contemplation.


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